November Sexoscopes

Feature illustration by Sophi Gullbrants; other illustrations by D Zhou

by Stefanie Caponi

Welcome to Scorpio season, lovers! This time of year is always marked with emotional intensity and transformational sexuality. Trees shed their leaves, exposing barren branches with the knowing that they cannot cling to what is no longer needed, trusting that they will always bloom again. November holds the final Mercury retrograde of 2019. In the sign of Scorpio, Mercury plumbs the depths of our psyches, investigating every text and gesture, analyzing the tone; searching for hidden meanings and metaphors. Scorpio energy governs secrets and what is hidden, bringing to light what is ready to be transformed. Expect the ghosts of relationships past to come knocking; remember, it’s your choice to grant them an audience or not. Most often when someone returns during Mercury retrograde, there is some form of closure needed. This can feel surprising, overwhelming, or empowering, depending on the situation. 

Take this time to go back over the lessons this year has provided. There could be an opportunity to see things from a new perspective, and wrap up any lingering emotions, or feeling chained to the past. Mercury Retrograde is not a time to begin new things, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be dating and putting yourself out there if you’re single. Taking things slowly is the best way to approach new romance. Observe more, act less—you may be seeing your own intimacy patterns playing out within your relationships. Take note of what appears to repeat, and inquire where you can do things differently. 

Mid-month, Mars moves from non-confrontational Libra into Scorpio, where it feels very comfortable being the aggressor in matters of the heart. Venus spends the month in Sagittarius, bringing playful fire to our romantic approach, helping to lighten the intense mood. The sun joins Venus in Sagittarius on the 23rd, and as Mercury has recently left its retrograde station, we can all begin to take action on what we’ve learned this month, and move forward accordingly.

 

Scorpio & Scorpio Rising (October 23-November 21)

 

Happy solar return Scorpio—it’s your time to shine! Try not to be disappointed that you have to share your favorite time of year with Mercury Retrograde, and instead consider this a cosmic gift, helping you to harness your powerful Pluto energy to transform yourself during your personal new year. Remember that you are a magnet, attracting everything you desire, as long as you believe you’re worth it and you trust that you’re ready for it. Liberating yourself from the past is the key to your future, and the people and opportunities that resurface at this time are showing you what is ready to be composted and alchemized in ways that you secretly dream of. This process of renewal awakens your strong sexual nature, so make sure you’re giving your body plenty of attention, whether solo or partnered. Sexual expression and erotic touch are your birthright; give generously to yourself as needed.

Sagittarius & Sagittarius Rising (November 22-December 21)

You may find yourself a little quieter at the beginning of the month, Sagittarius. All of the intense Scorpio energy happens behind the scenes for you, possibly bringing up feelings you would have preferred remain buried. If you feel uncomfortable, it’s a sign that you’re on the right track! Mercury retrograde will show you what needs your attention before you head into your own personal new year. All of the emotions you’re feeling can cause you to want to escape, possibly into the arms of former lovers. Delete old conversations and photos, anything that is taking up space to make room for something new and exciting (this goes for everyone, coupled or single). This month is about prioritizing your subconscious needs in order to have your physical needs met in the most authentically pleasurable way.

Capricorn & Capricorn Rising (December 22-January 20)

You’re always busy, Capricorn, and this month is no different. Mercury retrograde is about going over the past with a fine tooth comb, as Scorpio is always looking into the underlying meaning of things. Retrogrades are also about returns: This could be former partners or offers that you didn’t take seriously the first time around. Give yourself time to process who and what comes back before making definitive decisions on how to proceed. Trust that there is a reason you’re being asked to slow down your communications with romantic partners, guiding you towards more freedom within your relationships. Focus on exploring your connection to intimacy with curiosity and compassion, and forgive the past in order to move forward. Showing yourself unconditional love and support allows you to be open and available to receive reciprocal treatment from others.

Aquarius & Aquarius Rising (January 21-February 18)

You’re a visionary, Aquarius, and this month is about honing your ideas before sharing. There are things in the works for you, which you may or may not be aware of. Your integrity is important to you, and people are taking notice. Don’t be surprised if you are recognized at work or publicly within your community. You may feel uncomfortable being on the receiving end of praise and being in the spotlight. This is where Mercury Retrograde will ask you to reflect on your relationship with being seen. The energy spills over into your romantic relationships as well. Sometimes it’s easier to shift attention away rather than confront complex emotions that come from being visible. Stay with the discomfort and surrender control as you melt into vulnerability. Being loved doesn’t mean being owned. 

Pisces & Pisces Rising (February 19-March 20)

Mixed messages may be a theme this month, Pisces. A basic rule associated with Mercury retrograde is not to travel, but that is also the area this retrograde is highlighting, so let this serve as a metaphor for the duality of the stop/go energy of November. Take a deeper look at what limitations, delays, and frustrations are keeping you from moving forward in the ways you’ve been working toward. Take some space to envision your future. Ask yourself who is by your side, where are you living, how you spend your days. Have your dreams shifted? What is driving you, and is it aligned with what is in your heart? Ask for messages to come to you in your dreams, and pay attention to what you receive. Choosing yourself will guide you toward intimate partners who share your romantic vision and selfless approach to love. You’ll rejoin the action toward the end of the month when the sun moves into fiery Sagittarius.

Aries & Aries Rising (March 21-April 19)

Someone has to be the ex that returns during Mercury retrograde, and this time it might be you, Aries! Nothing wrong with that: You’re upfront with everyone that you’re here for a good time, not a long time. The energy of November allows you to revisit your past relationships in order to gain insight and clarity, as well as reflect on how much you’ve grown this year. Each partnership teaches us about ourselves, and Scorpio wants to dig deep into your motivations and revelations in order to transform. Even if you are happily coupled, you will still be exploring your concept of intimacy. Sex takes on a deeper meaning this month; stay present with yourself and your partners, and you may be surprised at what you uncover. The energy will lighten up toward the end of the month when the sun meets Venus in Sagittarius, and you’ll be back to your fiery self.

Taurus & Taurus Rising (April 20-May 20)

You’re being asked to take a step back in order to move forward, Taurus. This month’s heavy Scorpio energy is asking you to pay attention to what and who is coming back into your life right now. This may feel disruptive, catching you by surprise. This isn’t meant to make you question your choices; rather, before you take any current relationships to the next level or invite new partners in, there may be some closure that needs to happen. You could find yourself missing an ex. If this is the case, ask yourself: Do you miss them for who they are, or for the role they played? Are you missing the comfort, stability, and companionship? Take this time to carefully consider what your heart needs before taking any action.

Gemini & Gemini Rising (May 21-June 20)

Prioritize yourself this month, Gemini. Your self-care may be sorely lacking, and if so, you could really be feeling the affects of it this month. Instead of beating yourself up about it, take this opportunity to treat yourself more deliciously. Scorpio rules sex and transformation, and with your ruling planet Mercury retrograde here all month, you’re being asked to transform your relationship to your own sexual wellness. You don’t have to try anything new—you’ve already got everything you need. There may have been some things from the past that you tried to integrate that just didn’t stick. Try to see your partners with fresh eyes, and bring your playfully kinky side to your relationships.

Cancer & Cancer Rising (June 21-July 22)

The ghosts of relationships past will be following you this month, Cancer. The intense Scorpio energy is revealing the darker side of dating, asking you to look into the past in order to transform it. There are old patterns, behaviors, and relationships you’ve outgrown; although you may think you’ve moved on from them, there may still be some lingering debris to clear out before a new chapter can begin. Try to observe what and who returns, because it could be an opportunity to act differently, forgive, make peace, and find closure. Anything that left your life wasn’t part of the bigger picture. Endings lead to wonderful beginnings, and while this may feel intensely personal, it’s helping you open your heart to give and receive greater love.

Leo & Leo Rising (July 23-August 22)

Home is more than where you live, Leo. Sometimes we place our power outside of ourselves, thinking that someone else feels “like home” to us. Scorpio loves psychology and investigation, and you’ll be confronting your past in order to transform how it has colored and shaped your reality up to this point. Notice what helps you feel safe, loved, and cared for. Ask how the expression of these things are received, not just given. This is a powerful time to make changes to how you have related to intimate partners, new relationships are on the horizon Leo, this is part of that journey. Try to balance the deep feels by harnessing the sexier side of Scorpio. Even if it’s a night in with your favorite vibe, you’re the royalty of the zodiac. Treat yourself as such.

Virgo & Virgo Rising (August 23-September 22)

Your ruling planet Mercury is retrograde for most of the month, Virgo. The heavy Scorpio action is helping you to bring deep, intuitive feeling to your mental process. When feelings are aligned with the mind, alchemy happens. You are being given insight into your relationship energy through a dual lens. You are best advised to wait to take any action until later in the month when the sun moves into Sagittarius, which is when you’ll have greater access to speaking your desires with greater confidence. While this process may at times feel destabilizing and confusing, its helping you magnetize the right partnerships to you, where you can feel free to express your low key kinky side.

Libra & Libra Rising (September 23-October 22)

What do you value, Libra? Scorpio rules sex and intimacy, and with this energy swimming through the area of your chart that rules personal finances and self-worth, you may find yourself in the murky waters of energetic debt. You prefer things to be balanced and fair, but if there have been any relationships that have been taking without an even exchange, you will be made aware of them this month. Some things will come to an end, and that makes space for the new and exciting beginnings. While this may feel like a downer, lean into the sexier side of Scorpio by experimenting with the erotic side of aesthetics, without breaking the bank, save the shopping spree for after Mercury retrograde. Embodying your sexual power through dressing up can help you process your inner feelings. “Transformation, but make it fashion,” is your motto this month.

Stefanie Caponi is a Brooklyn-based artist, astrologer, tarot reader, and creator of The Moon Void Tarot deck. Follow Stefanie on Instagram @stefaniecaponi for more astrology and tarot insights.