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Illustration by Lea Carey By Louise Head When someone you’re hooking up with says, “I’m so wet,” or “I’m so hard,” we understand it to mean, “damn, I’m really turned on, touch me.” Our cultural understanding of desire assumes that we can tell if someone is turned on by how their body is responding during sex. Turns out that’s not really true! That’s because physical arousal is not the same thing as subjective arousal. Physical arousal is when your genitals are responding to a sexual stimulus (like porn or a partner touching you). Subjective arousal is your personal assessment of whether that sexual stimulus is pleasing and turns you on. Arousal Non-Concordance The truth is, most people experience a significant...

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Our CEO Alex Fine recently sat down with Melanie Cristol, CEO & Founder of Lorals, which heralds itself as, "the world's first lingere for oral sex." The two met at Cycles & Sex back in November, and while Alex and the Dame team were curious about the product, we also had some reservations. Lorals announced their product in Bustle on February 15 and launched on March 6. Since their launch, they have been covered in worldwide press, and the response has been mostly positive but there’s been a critical streak too. Alex got real with Melanie about the public’s response to this brand new oral sex product. Image courtesy of Lorals How did you feel about the response to Lorals? So many...

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Welcome back to What's In Your Nightstand? Our monthly interview with our favorite sex-positive folks where we ask them all their *dirty* little not-so-secrets! This month we've interviewed Sebastian Rosemarie, Afro-Latina model and artist, mental health advocate, and sex positive writer + activist! She's a true bad ass, y'all. Photo by Joe Gray Ok so, obvious one first, ...what's in your nightstand? Some heart sunglasses, c&b rope, a buttplug, lots of pens, my notebook, unopened hair dye, hand cuffs, work out shorts that I never use (lol), old film, red nail polish, and a joint! Illustration by Lea Carey What's the sexiest thing in your nightstand? My precious pink crystal dildo  What's the most practical thing in your nightstand? Probably lube, it’s...

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Your April Sexoscopes

Illustrations by Lea Carey   By Resident Sextrologist, Francesca Piazza  Energy is high this month, higher than March, yet still slightly foggy. Mercury retrograde demands for us to all slow down and “RE” everything — relax, redo, revisit, rethink, reschedule, recoup, rehash, release, etc. As long as this energy isn’t fought, retrograde can be our friend. Time to identify where we are lacking an outlet for our energy, sexual energy in particular thanks to dominant Aries crossing the sky. Spruce up the aspects of your life where the passion has fizzled. Mid-month the new moon wraps up retrograde, and we all get to finally benefit. Get out and go to new places with new people. Love is flowing as we head...

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Illustration by Lea Carey By: Helaina Hovitz Having a baby is often portrayed as one of the best things that happens to a couple—and one of the worst things that can happen to a woman’s body. It can also put new stresses on a partnership, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. The way Clinical Psychologist and Therapist Megan Warner has seen it play out IRL, demands on each parent are higher, there are identity changes in how each parent sees themselves and each other, there is a new pressure and sense of obligation to care for a new human, all of which can create a sense of distance between partners. After a woman gives birth, her doctor tells...

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